open adoption roundtable: small moments
As part of Open Adoption Roundtable #4, Heather at Production Not Reproduction asks open adoption bloggers to describe “a small moment that open adoption made possible.”
We have only been in an open adoption for less than eight weeks, yet we’ve already had so many beautiful moments made possible only by the openness in our adoption. Yet I can not resist writing about the most beautiful moment of all, though it is not “small” by any measure.
The full story is long overdue, but the most beautiful single moment is the moment I saw our daughter being born. Only in a truly open adoption could I have had the privilege to be present and participate in her birth experience as I did.
Baby J was born at home, in her birth mom’s home, surrounded by skilled midwives and loved ones. The moment I saw her head slowly emerge, I held my breath in awe. I simply could not believe what we were witnessing. As her tiny body came out, I caught her. (Not many women can say they caught their own child!)
The midwives quickly wrapped warm blankets around the baby as I held her for just a moment before passing her to K. We still didn’t yet know whether she was a girl or a boy, and it was my job to call out her gender. But she was covered by the blanket! One of the midwives opened it up so I could see.
“Oh [K], she’s a beautiful girl!” I cried, in tears — and to my husband M, “a beautiful girl…”
After we hugged, sobbing tears of awe and joy, I looked up and realized there was not a dry eye in the room.
And a new family was born.
What an amazing moment! Beautifully told, as always.
babysmiling said this on July 23, 2009 at 11:25 pm |
What a beautiful amazing moment.
Michell said this on July 24, 2009 at 1:24 am |
Hooray! I am so delighted you’ve gotten to have such wonderful moments of unadulterated joy.
Shinejil said this on July 24, 2009 at 2:47 am |
No dry eyes here either…. how incredible to have witnessed that!
Malloryn said this on July 24, 2009 at 4:53 am |
And not a dry eye among the internets who read this. Beautiful moment, luna. How amazing!
irish girl said this on July 24, 2009 at 5:21 am |
There’s not a dry eye in this room, either. Just perfect.
Kymberli said this on July 24, 2009 at 5:36 am |
Beautiful story. Being in the room for my son’s birth was amazing too.
KLTTX said this on July 24, 2009 at 5:51 am |
No dry eyes here either!! A beautiful moment never ever forgotten.
shmode said this on July 24, 2009 at 6:33 am |
Glad I’m alone in the office today so I can sob out all the emotion I’m feeling hearing this. So, so powerful, Luna – it sounds to me like it was a healing and transformative experience, and I’m so tremendously glad you got to go through that.
annacyclopedia said this on July 24, 2009 at 7:30 am |
I can’t imagine how you must have been feeling – surreal perhaps? So raw, so real, so amazing! Catching your child! Wow! I have a question to ask – did you take childcare courses during the waiting time – like how to hold an infant, change diapers, that sort of thing?
deathstar44 said this on July 24, 2009 at 8:21 am |
Simply awesome.
Denise said this on July 24, 2009 at 10:49 am |
FABULOUSNESS! Love it! 🙂
JessPond said this on July 24, 2009 at 11:35 am |
Thank you for writing this.
peeveme said this on July 24, 2009 at 11:52 am |
Awestruck and tearful here.
Rebeccah said this on July 24, 2009 at 2:48 pm |
Crying here! That was beautiful Luna. You caught her…I’m in awe. That is so amazing and beautiful.
Flicka said this on July 24, 2009 at 5:41 pm |
Chills. Goosebumps. Wow.
Lavender Luz said this on July 24, 2009 at 8:33 pm |
Add mine to the wet eyes…there is nothing like it is there?
kalakly said this on July 26, 2009 at 1:29 pm |
Yeah, not so much with the small, but certainly beautiful. 🙂
I love that J has this story if at all possible more than I love that you have it. To know how much love and intent there was in her very birth… I hope that means a lot to her as she grows up.
Julia said this on July 26, 2009 at 9:35 pm |
I love that last line. That sums it up for me.
SassyCupcakes said this on July 26, 2009 at 9:35 pm |
Oh, Luna, more happily weepy eyes for you and your wonderful family. Thank you for sharing such a beautiful moment. Your words draw a picture I don’t think I’ll ever forget.
Sue said this on July 28, 2009 at 3:18 pm |
That is gorgeous! I can’t believe how much I’ve missed! First of all, a HUGE congrats on your baby daughter! It’s amazing. Not one day goes by that I don’t wish Lily’s birthmom would get in touch with us. When you share the birth of a child with someone – it’s a bond that nobody else can understand and one that defies all rules of a what a family “should” be. She will always be in our hearts and always be a part of our family. I can’t wait to read more about all of us – I’ll just put the Kleenex box next to me on the desk:)
katd1011 said this on July 29, 2009 at 5:09 am |
Oh, beautiful!
Kami said this on July 29, 2009 at 11:51 am |
Gorgeous. You, your family, this story. All of it!
anymommy said this on July 30, 2009 at 8:06 am |
Oh, this is just beautiful to hear. It really helps me a lot as I have been having anxiety about how I will feel at that exact moment. A new family indeed.
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