the time has come…

I have tried to be very careful about what I say in this space to protect the privacy of Baby J as well as K and her family. As you can imagine, it is often difficult to differentiate between my own personal story — which I’ve shared here — and Baby J’s story, or K’s. Nowhere is that more evident than with the birth story.

So I’ve finally decided password protect select posts to do a better job of protecting the privacy of others. I may go back and protect some old posts, especially those with photos.

If you would like the password, please leave a comment on this post. If I “know” you — because you either have a blog or have commented here before — I’ll email you the password. If I don’t know you, then please just tell me briefly who you are. No need to name names, my lurker friends, just tell me a sentence about yourself and that you are reading along.

Many thanks for following this journey…


~ by luna on September 29, 2009.

95 Responses to “the time has come…”

  1. I’d love the password. πŸ™‚

  2. I’d love to be able to keep reading! I am currently blogless but harmless.

  3. Hi. I am an adoptive mother of 3 and have been reading along for several months. I’d love a password to read the rest of the “birth story”!

  4. I would love the password if you feel comfortable giving it to me. I have been a long time reader of your blog and I have commented a few times. After years of battling infertility, my husband and I are now waiting prospective adoptive parents in domestic open adoption. I find reading blogs……especial infertility to adoption blogs really helpful as I navigate this path to parenthood.

  5. Hi, I’d love the password. I am pursuing the donor route but have been loving learning about your story.

  6. I’ve followed your blog as a lurker for quite sometime…I currently have a 5 month old that is my IVF miracle baby.

  7. I need the password, please – without it I will pine and wither away! And I totally get the need to password protect – I expect I will be following in your footsteps in a few months.

  8. Hi – I’ve been reading your blog for a while now and have commented a few times in the past. You probably don’t “know” me but I would love to be able to read the third part of the birth story! I’ve found your journey to be fascinating and may end up with adoption in my future as well.

  9. Whew, when I saw password protect I thought I might never know the ‘whole’ story, eventho I sort of know how it ends:) Hope you will share the rest with me, I would love to read it.

  10. I’ve been reading since you started this blog. I haven’t commented much lately, but I always read, and am so, so, so happy for you and M and Baby J. I’d love to read along (esp. on this post since I am also a fan of home birth and love to read birth stories).

  11. I’ve been reading since just before you found out you were going to be parents. My husband and I have been trying for two years………… no luck :(. I would love to keep following your story if I can.

  12. I’d love the password. I’ve commented before but let me know if you need more info.

  13. I’m a faithful lurker πŸ™‚
    I have a blog: Barren Woman.
    I’d love to keep following your story!

  14. I would like the password as well. I am one who, like you, is infertile, but has 3 children. They are now 25, 20, and 16, but that feeling hasn’t left yet. I’ve never posted, but have been reading for a while.

  15. I am another one of your lurkers! I have read almost all your postings to date and would love to hear the rest of the birth story. My husband and I live in SF and we are waiting to adopt.

  16. I’d like to have the pasword, if it’s ok. If it isn’t, I understand.

  17. I would also love the password. I’ve commented many times before, but if you don’t remember I’m Jody (aka shmode) and I’m a mom to 3 kids, 1 of whom is adopted and currently in the process for our second public domestic adoption of an older child.

  18. I’d love to keep reading.

  19. I have been a long time reader to your blog. I have dealt with infertility for the last four years. Went through IVF in March, and I am pregnant with my first child in december.
    I would love to continue to read your blog. It has been very inspiring to me.

  20. almost forgot I would love the password to continue to read your blog. Thank you.

  21. Of *course* I would love to keep following

  22. Hi Luna – I’d love to be able to continuing following your journey….thanks!


  23. Hi Luna,
    Please add me to your password protected list. I completely understand why you need to do this. Looking forward to reading on.

  24. Where is my password – hurry!!!!! I’m hanging here!

  25. I’d love to keep reading along.

  26. lurker here as well. I’d love to keep reading your beautiful writing.

  27. I’d love the password, Luna.

  28. I have been reading your blog since before your started your adoption journey and commented during your ‘coming out party’. I would love to be able keep reading.

  29. I’d love to keep following your story. I have been following for several months as I prepare to be a mom through domestic adoption and international (china) someday – all the paper work has been in for sometime (China 2 yrs – domestic 6 months) it is SO helpful to read the stories of those that have been through it and are on the other side! Thank you for sharing your story.

  30. I would love to continue following your journey. Please send me the password!

  31. Please? Would love to know more of this story. Always great hearing from you.

  32. I would love the password. I miscarried a year ago Sept 3. Hubby and I are attending an adoption informational meeting next Monday. Today of all days I need a hug and a” doesn’t life suck sometimes but hey I am there for you ” kind of friend real life or internet

  33. I’d love the password, if you’d have me. πŸ™‚

  34. Password, please.

  35. Hi, Luna! I’d love the password so I can continue to hear your story.

  36. Luna – I would of course love to keep reading!

  37. I would love the password if you see fit.

  38. Hi,
    I am a devoted lurker who would love to keep reading your story. I am waiting to adopt and get a lot of information from reading your blog. Thank you for sharing your story so far. It is very inspirational!

  39. I’d love to keep reading too.

  40. I would love to keep reading too, Luna. I only wish I had found you sooner! I have learned so much from you since we’ve “met” and I appreciate the openness of your writing. And of course I’m dying to hear the rest of baby J’s birth story!!! (-;

  41. I’d like the password too, Luna!

  42. Please include me in on the password list!

  43. Hi I would love to continue to follow your story, I am an adoptive mom and started following when Kami (infertility adventure) a friend of mine let us know your great news about your baby.

  44. Oh, please! I’d love to keep reading!

    HeeeeereStorkeyStorkey πŸ™‚

  45. I’d love your password. After 7 years of trying to have a baby we are about to fly to China to adopt our baby daughter. Your blog was part of what kept me going during the long wait.


    ps our website password is baileycat

  46. Luna, I would love a password please to keep following your journey. Thank you!

  47. I’d love to be able to keep reading. We are just starting with open domestic infant adoption. Your story is so inspiring and reassuring!

  48. I’m a lurker — dh and I are currently “waiting” after many years of IF, and I’ve been following your journey for a couple of years. I’d love to be able to keep reading. You guys have been a big inspiration to us as we contemplate open adoption.


  49. Hey Luna! Of course I would love to continue to read along, including your password posts. I am planning to do the same in my space, soon. It just sounds good to write openly, freely, without wonder who is reading without knowing they’re there. πŸ™‚

  50. I’m honestly not sure whether I’ve noted before or not, but I read every entry. I believe I found your blog through the Open Adoption Bloggers webring, and I read because I’m waiting to adopt. I’ve enjoyed reading, and I’d love to have the password if you’re ok with that.

  51. Delurking from Winnipeg to say I’d love the password.

    I’m a fellow adoptive mom — to older children adopted from Ukraine four+ years ago now. I love your blog, and am dying to hear the rest of the birth story!

  52. I’d love to keep following along, Luna!

  53. I would love the password. I found your blog through another adoption blog. I went out of town and missed the last, and best part of the story! I have read your backlog and enjoy your posts. Thanks-

  54. Password, please, Luna! I have to know how the birth story ends…

    Oh yeah. With birth. πŸ™‚

  55. Hi. I’m a recent reader to your blog. I am quite harmless and do not know you in any way in real life. I live in Minnesota with my husband and four year old son and read a lot of blogs at work to pass the time. I truly enjoy reading different family blogs on the web and would love to continue reading yours if you will send me the password. I don’t have a blog myself, I consider setting one up but then there is always something else to do. Anyway. If you want any further details before sharing let me know and I will surely share away. πŸ™‚ thanks!

  56. Please count me in, Luna! Thanks in advance.

  57. Please include me, I need to continue reading! πŸ™‚

  58. I’ve not been about much recently but I’m starting to think about blogging again. Your story is so relevant to the direction we have taken now. I am so so happy to hear the joy in your posts, it gives me such hope for the future too xx

  59. Hi – I’m a lurker who would love to have the password πŸ™‚

    My name is Allison, my husband and I are expecting our 1st child after over 5 years of trying and I have become addicted to reading blogs as it cheers me up and makes me feel better about our situation and keeps my hope up

  60. I would be honored to be able to continue following your story. You may remember me, i am a sometimes commentor, i am at I’m the one who lives in crazy Cairo Egypt.

  61. i don’t remember how i found your blog, and i can’t remember if i’ve ever commented here, but you’ve been in my feed reader for quite some time. i’d love to read if you’d care to share. a friend of mine has adopted, and i might consider it in the future.

  62. I would love to keep following your story, Luna. : )

  63. My goodness — look at all of your readers! I have been lurking for a month or so as we have started processing our own future family. I love love to read on. The picture you paint of your family gives me much hope!

  64. Me! Me! Pretty please.

  65. me too please

  66. I have been reading for a while, but have not comment that much.

    I would love to keep reading πŸ˜‰

  67. I’d love to keep reading.

  68. Hello, I’m a noob to your blog, but I would love to be able to continue to read it and learn more about you and your story.

  69. I’d love to keep following your story, so please send me the pw. (Wow! You must be busy emailing. I hope this gives you an even better sense of how meaningful your blog is to so many people.)

  70. I’d love the password as well. I’ve been following since just before you brought home J and I’d like to continue.

  71. Pretty please. I’m catching up on Reader tonight. I kept seeing this post every time I opened it and finally can sit down to say, “me, me, meeeeeeeeeeee.”

  72. Hi, My name is Chris, and you don’t know me. I stumbled on your blog once many months ago and in one afternoon sat and read it top to bottom so fascinated by your story. You write so well and it was just–compelling. I’ve been checking in faithfully since that day to read updates, and to see those beautiful baby pictures. I know I’ve thought of commenting a few times, I’ know I did comment when baby J arrived, I’m not sure if I used this address or the same as I use them both with equal frequency. I can completely understand if you don’t want to share your password, but I’m going to ask anyway, because after all the worst thing you can do is say no, right? And I truly have enjoyed reading your story, seeing your beautifuly baby girl and your wonderful writing style. I’m a lurker, I don’t write–I try writing my own blog and stumble, after half an entry, but I’m a huge reader and I truly would love to read the birth story if I may.

    Thank you.

  73. I’m a little behind on my blog reading, but I’d love to be able to read your birth story πŸ™‚

  74. I’m just catching up. I would like the password if you would like to share it with me. hope548 at gmail dot com.

  75. Oh, I read the first one, got caught up in life and just came back all excited to finish. Can I read please?

  76. I’m a little behind on my blog reading, but would be honoured if you would email me the password, luna.

  77. 76 responses? You have a lot of readers!

    add me to the list please.

  78. Hi Luna

    I’m, admittedly, a lurker– but a safe one. I’m still in the midst of infertility hell. My story is a bit unique in that I got pregnant the first time I tried 2.5 years ago, but terminated the pregnancy at 20 weeks due to a severe heart defect. I have not been able to stay pregnant, and barely have been able to get pregnant, since. I’ve been following your blog for over a year and much of it resonates deeply. It also provides sorely needed hope. I would love the password! Thanks…

  79. I’d like the password. Sorry I’m late. Moving messed up my blog reading time. Then last night I couldn’t access your blog. Dang computer.

  80. I’d love to be added to the list! babyattheend(at)gmail(dot)com

  81. hey! i’ve been absent from your blog for awhile and am trying to catch up — funny how a newborn will do that to you! i would love the password so i can continue along in your story:)

  82. Hi Luna,

    I haven’t followed your blog before, but got the link from BestLight Lori. May I have your password so that I can catch up on your story?

  83. Hi there! I’m a longtime reader and a new mom to twin boys, born 12 weeks too early but hanging in there.

  84. I know I’m late, I’m REALLY behind in my bloglines but I would love to have the password to follow along. I’m not sure how I found you but I have been following since before you found K to be your birth mother and would love to continue.

  85. Hi I would love to be able to read more about your journey to becoming adoptive parents

  86. Oh my goodness, I’m so far behind in reading! … password? : )

  87. Hi there, I’m Erin and I would love to be able to read the password protected posts. I am just starting out on our domestic newborn adoption journey and am very inspired by your blog. I have a blog too (need to post more) but will list it below. Thanks

  88. Hello, Luna. My name is Kathy and I came upon your blog tonight at Adoptive Families magazine’s website. I live in Chicago w/ my husband of nine years. We are infertile and are expecting our first baby December 8 by way of open adoption. I would very much like to read about J’s birth story. All blesssings to you and your family—-including, of course, K and hers. Best wishes and thanks for three hours of hope!

  89. I’ve just found your blog and would love the password–my blog is at, and my email is sussan.b.antimony (at) gmail (dot) com. Oh, and very belated congratulations!

  90. I already emailed you asking for the password. I too write extensively….it is therapy for me. Sometime, I will share my daugher’s pain and her feelings about open adoption. They are mostly positive. She needs and enjoys experiencing herself reflected in her bio mom! My daughter looks like her bio mom; she is petite, with great big expressive hazel eyes and a million dollar smile. That recognition is crucial to her development, but the abandonment in real, deep and heartfelt. Yes, the reasons for the adoption were compelling and just and while we 12 years later continue CELEBRATE her life as a BLESSING, at her core our intelligent/perceptive daughter understands she was abandoned. She IS working through these feelings and emerging as a confident and poised young woman, but it is painful to watch.

  91. Hi there
    I have suffered pprom as well and I am coming up to the anniversary of the loss of my little girl Madison. I thoroughly enjoy reading your eloquent postings, you really should publish them in a book. You have a lovely writing style. So raw, so honest! If you would like to share your password that would be great, if not I do understand the need for baby j and Ks privacy and I will keep lurking nonetheless. Please keep writing your blog u are an inspiration.
    Rachel x

  92. Hi

    I started reading your blog a couple of weeks ago. I am getting ready to go to my first IF appointment and reading blogs like your have been real, yet uplifting. I would love the password to continue reading yours, M’s, K’s, and Baby’s story.

    And thank you for being so open, if nothing else, I beleive this blog has been some comfort to women across the country, including me!

  93. I am trying to figure out when I found your blog because I feel like I’ve been reading it for the longest time, but then I’m clicking back and realize I can’t have been here all that long because these posts are not all that long ago… anyway, that’s a long way of saying I’d love to have the password if you’re still giving it out, and if you’re not, I totally understand (no pressure!)

  94. I recently was linked to your blog. I’d love to read some of the protected posts if you would not mind. My husband and I are starting IVF and considering adoption.

  95. I found your website through My husband and I just had our first anniversary of losing our son at 24 weeks. We are 37 & have been struggling with infertility for 7 + years. So much of your story resonates & I’m so grateful to you for your blog – it has brought me comfort & inspiration. We are now at the crossroads of going back to IVF and/or adoption. If you are still giving the password, I’d live to continue reading about your story.

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