timeline

• June 1, 2009: Baby J begins her forever life in our home and hearts. We all enjoy a fully open adoption with K and her family.
  
• May 31, 2009: Baby J is born to K (on her due date!). We are there to welcome her to the world.
  
• May 2009: I turn (gasp!) 40 and K reaches her 40th week of pregnancy!  Is it possible I will finally become a mother at this point in my life?  K’s due date is May 31.
  
• April 22, 2009: We celebrate Earth Day by marking just 39 days (5.5 weeks) to go until K’s due date!  We begin to work on what feels like a soon-to-be nursery…
• March 21, 2009: K is nearly 30 weeks pregnant.  My first uterine surgery was 7 years ago today.  We first met K in person 3 months ago today; now there are just 10 weeks to go until her due date. This is starting to feel real…
• February 23, 2009: K is 26 weeks pregnant, with just over 3 months left until her due date…
• January-February 2009: we spend lots of time getting to know K and her family, exchanging email updates, sharing meals, and attending midwife appointments (heard baby’s heartbeat Jan. 20).
• December 26, 2008: K asks us to be the parents of her baby, due June 1!
• December 2008: our outreach leads us to K, a young expectant mother who is making an adoption plan.
• October-November 2008: still trying to finalize adoption outreach materials and outreach plan (letters, website, etc.)
• September 2008: home study complete!  developing our outreach materials…
• August 2008: initial home study visit 8/8/08; home study proceeding; all paperwork has been submitted!
• June 2008: moving on to domestic open adoption; home study application submitted; June 24; the paper trail begins; considering the services of a consultant/facilitator
• May 2008: I turn 39, and the wind changes course…
• April 2008: the last BFN (FET), most likely the last medicated cycle we will try. It doesn’t look good from here.
• March 2008: six years since my first surgery.  FET is postponed due to thin lining (7mm). Transferred 3 embryos March 24… and now the 2ww.
• Feb. 2008: begin protocol for FET #1 (first and last); estimated transfer date March 19
• Jan. 2008: IVF #1, biggest fattest bfn ever (IVF).  so what’s next?
• Dec. 2007 (age 38): IVF #1, our first and best chance begins and looks oh so promising… Details about this cycle can be found here
• Nov. 2007: last bfn I can handle…
• July-Oct. 2007: 3 failed IUIs with clomid & injectibles
• March 2007: begin ttc again after surgery #4
• Feb. 2007: (4th) final surgery to remove damn uterine fibroids (hysteroscopic)
• Jan. 2007: prepare for surgery #4
• Dec. 2006: (3rd) surgery to fix blocked tubes and pelvic adhesions (from surgery #1) (laproscopic & hysteroscopic), but unfortunately couldn’t remove fibroids so #4 still needed (crap!)…
• Nov. 2006: 2nd consult with RE; dx = blocked tubes and fibroids (grew back in 6 months!); schedule surgery #3
• June 2006 (age 37): begin ttc again after surgery #2
• April 2006: (2nd) surgery by ob/gyn to remove fibroids (hysteroscopic myomectomy)
• Feb. 2006: lost my only pregnancy (baby boy) at 21 weeks due to preterm premature membrane rupture (P-PROM); delivered while sleeping (the missing surgery); despair ensues…
• Jan. 2006: u/s detects fibroid growth during 1st trimester…
• Sept. 2005: get pregnant naturally to everyone’s surprise…
• 2005 (age 36): 3 rounds of clomid; 1st consult with RE; dx = blocked tubes and pesky fibroid serving as an IUD
• 2004 (age 35): begin ttc#1 in spring after healing from surgery #1
• 2003 (age 34): HSG detects small new uterine fibroids, scar tissue and blocked tube;  take a wait and see approach to ttc to avoid another big surgery (bad idea)…
• 2002 (age 33): major surgery to remove massive uterine fibroid the size of a lg. grapefruit (abdominal myomectomy); told to wait to ttc
• 2001 (age 32): diagnosed with ginormous uterine fibroid (just as I was finishing grad school)